Manifesting 101: Getting Clear, Removing Obstacles and Letting Go of New Age B.S.
“What you seek is seeking you.” ~ Rumi
I love this quote by Rumi. It reminds me that those experiences that I’m seeking are not random. They’re not superfluous. They’re part of my soul’s journey and they matter.
But our new age world has sent us very mixed messages. It has told us that ‘thoughts become things’ and that if we simply focus and envision and thank the Universe in advance (my personal favourite) that our – fill in the blank – will show up.
Hang on a sec.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve tried this with some luck and with some abysmal failure. And my burning question is, if this is the prescription for manifestation, than why doesn’t it work all of the time?
I’m going to nutshell this for you.
You’re going to have the exact experiences that your soul chose for you long before you got here. Your desires (the deep, burning ones that don’t waver) are always pointing you in the direction of your soul contracts. Listen to them. Preferably without ego. And allow, allow, allow. Allow them to come to you. And be open as to how these contracts unfold.
Here’s a great personal example. My husband and I tried for 7 years to get pregnant. I’d wanted to be a mom since I was a kid. And as a note of interest (to illuminate the fact that our soul is always communicating with us), I remember being about 6 years old and playing with my dolls one summer afternoon. I was thinking, “I can’t wait to be a mommy one day!” Almost immediately, this calm, loving voice spoke to me. “You will,” it said, “it’ll take you a while, but you will.”
When we finally did get pregnant, there was no happier expectant mama than me. We had our baby girl, who is now 7, and I was ecstatic. When Ava was 1, we started trying for baby number 2. Because that’s what we’re supposed to do, right? Right?
This is where my soul had a different contract for me. I was to have one awesome, creative, hilarious, empathic, incredible girl. No more.
How did I get my lines crossed? Because no one tried more manifestation techniques than me. So again, what happened?
My ego got involved. My social conditioning kicked in and said, “To be a real, honest-to-goodness mama, I need to have 2 or more kids.” I wholeheartedly believed it. And I tortured myself with the whys when it was clear that it wasn’t happening.
Did I do something wrong? Was my diet not clean enough? Did I not focus hard enough? Was I somehow being punished?
No, no and no.
It simply wasn’t in the cards.
So here’s what happened when I came into alignment with this soul contract of being the mama to one awesome kid. I saw with complete clarity that this was, in fact, perfect for me. It was not only perfect for me, but perfect for my husband, perfect for our daughter.
Having one kid isn’t stressful. And for someone whose nervous system can get dialled up on a dime, this works really, really well for me. It’s also left room for me to walk deeply in the footsteps of my other soul contract: As a healer of other souls learning to walk in their own soul footsteps.
So what do you do when you’ve been grappling with something that you’ve been trying to manifest? It can be helpful to illuminate what a soul contract entails.
A soul contract is an experience that is meant to bring about a particular kind of evolution or awakening. On the deepest level, a soul contract is meant to deepen a knowing within you. A knowing that can heal old karma. A knowing that can light up whole new worlds of thought and insight.
So when you’ve hit upon an unwavering desire and that desire is not unfolding in the way that you imagined it, please know that the way you’ve imagined it is what is off base. Not the desire or the contract itself.
This is like my contract to be a mom. I had simply imagined it in a way that wasn’t lining up with the original agreement. When I let go (which is key to allowing our contracts to unfold with more ease) I saw the absolute perfection in what my soul carved out for me.
So the key here is letting go of how we think our lives should look and making room for the life that’s knocking at your door.
The path of least resistance is always a great illuminator of our alignment with our soul contracts. Does something you’re trying to connect with feel difficult? Painful? Elusive?
Are you banging your head against a door that just doesn’t seem to be opening?
Step back. And ask your Higher Self. Is this for me? Does this feel in alignment? If not, be willing to let go.
The trouble is, some contracts aren’t fun. I contracted to have Crohn’s Disease. It wasn’t exactly a walk in the park. And yet when I look back on my 44 years on this planet, I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that it molded me into the person I am today. I do what I do as a nutritionist and energy healer because of being sick for so long. In retrospect, it was one of the best things that ever happened for me. To note, I said for me, not to me. Even this perspective shift can move worlds within your experience here.
But hindsight is 20/20.
While we’re in the eye of the storm, it can be painful as hell. It can suck and it can bring us to our knees. And that, right there, is when you know there is a deep soul lesson for you. Anything that brings us to our knees has the ability to change us, deeply. Forever.
And so we let go. Again.
When we realize our egos were never in the driver seat (thank GOD) we can sit back and allow. We can allow our soul to bring us the contracts and the lessons that we signed up for and simply can’t avoid. You don’t have to try. You don’t have to do anything.
Come into alignment with what is.
A relationship isn’t working out. Come into alignment with that. Your health is on shaky ground. Come into alignment with that. You didn’t get the job that you prayed you’d get. Come into alignment with that.
Otherwise, we’re white knuckling and fighting and arguing our way through our lives. That’s not so fun.
We knew it wouldn’t be perfect coming here. We knew we’d have times that were going to be really effing hard. We knew we’d all experience loss and we knew we’d see it all at the moment of our return.
The more I relax into what is and eschew my ego ramblings, the more alive I feel. Because in this space, I’m not deluding myself. I’m aligning. And my soul’s melody comes through unobstructed.
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